4 Transformative Habits for Teenagers: Enhancing Tranquility and Personal Growth

Practicing these habits can undoubtedly enhance your life tenfold.

Side note / disclaimer: Whenever I refer to “you,” I include myself as well. Additionally, these are my personal opinions, not indisputable facts. Feel free to agree or disagree; either way, it’s all good. Xoxo ♡

Hello there! It’s been a while since I last penned my thoughts. There isn’t a particular reason, but it seemed like I needed some space, a moment to sit quietly with my thoughts. Life has been treating me well though.

As I vowed in my previous blog “Answers to Questions I wished i had as a Teenager“, I’m here to share a few things you can weave into your daily routine as a teenager, to make your life a tad bit better and smoother. When I came across these insights, I was already 20, and during that time, I couldn’t help but wonder how different things might have been if I’d learned these lessons during my early teens.

Now, don’t misunderstand me – regardless of your age, you can still adopt these practices. I’m specifically addressing teenagers because many have reached out to me with concerns, and perhaps my experiences can provide some assistance. And, as always, I firmly believe that if even a single person gains something from this, then the purpose is fulfilled.

Let’s dive into the main topic: What are these habits that, when cultivated, can lead to greater tranquility and wiser decision-making?

NUMBER 1. READING

Reading – a way to realize you’re not alone.

Before we proceed, please forgive my randomness in numbering. Let’s start with the first habit: cultivating a reading routine. I cannot stress this enough. The act of reading can have an astonishing impact on your life. It’s especially beneficial to read about problems that resonate with you – any kind of issue. During your teenage years, as you navigate through various phases – friendships, relationships, bouts of loneliness, competitiveness, and more – reading can be an invaluable companion.

In my journey, I encountered these very struggles and initially sought advice from peers who were navigating the same challenges. But I’ve come to realize that turning to those who’ve weathered similar storms in the past – individuals who were once in my shoes – can provide invaluable wisdom and guidance. Remember, you’re not alone in your current experiences. Millions of others share your situation. Loneliness is something we all face, and during these times, it’s crucial to find the right path.

Allow me to share a personal example. In ninth grade, I found myself losing friends, which left me with a slew of unanswered questions. I started believing that being likable or pleasant was beyond my capabilities. This led me to a people-pleasing mentality, where I’d bend over backward to ensure others’ happiness, often at the expense of my own. But this approach only led to being taken for granted, and I found myself feeling undervalued. This cycle of seeking approval while neglecting my well-being was toxic and detrimental. I spiraled into solitude, associating with individuals who added no real value to my life. My self-esteem plummeted, and I bottled up my emotions, fearing confrontation and potential loss.

It’s clear that this cycle was unhealthy, draining me emotionally. Rather than improving, I was becoming a people-pleaser, eroding my self-worth. It never occurred to me that I wasn’t at fault. There had to be another way. Eventually, I stumbled upon the works of Najwa Zebian, a writer whose insights on self-love were transformative. Her writings helped me rediscover self-worth, change my perspectives, and grow stronger in the process. The two years I spent as a people-pleaser were lost, but I emerged stronger, learning from my experiences.

So, read. Regardless of age, seek knowledge to become more resilient and capable. Remember, knowledge is never wasted. Onward to the next habit…

NUMBER 2: ONE DAY OR DAY ONE?

Your evolution rests in your hands.

The second habit centers on fostering ambition for personal growth. This doesn’t mean you should study around the clock or strive to become the next big thing. No, it’s about nurturing a hunger for growth. Recognize that your life is precious, and time waits for no one. Whatever your passion may be, if, like me, you didn’t start with a predefined goal, start exploring. Learn about various fields, because it’s never too late to embark on your journey. You have a single life to live, and being ambitious extends beyond careers. It encompasses your mental health, happiness, and education. Don’t compare yourself to others’ achievements; instead, draw inspiration from them. If they can do it, so can you. Remember, you have a purpose; focus on uncovering it.

NUMBER 3: SPIRITUAL AWAKENING

Life’s dimensions are deeper than they appear.

Depression and anxiety touch so many lives – young and old alike. Numerous individuals, myself included, have grappled with traumas at different points. Many fail to overcome these traumas, perpetuating a cycle that inflicts suffering on others. A spiritual awakening can help you address past traumas and build resilience for future challenges. Countless resources – podcasts, books, YouTube channels – can guide you on this path. Personally, I’ve found solace in podcasts and books, continuously learning about this concept. The journey is ongoing, but the benefits are profound.

NUMBER 4: GRATITUDE

Unveiling the world’s beauty and your deservingness.

To conclude, let’s talk about gratitude. Practicing gratitude doesn’t just enhance your achievements; it reveals that you possess more than you realize. It fosters a solution-focused mindset and brings you closer to the ultimate goal: happiness. While your aspirations may differ, view “happiness” as a metaphor for your unique end goal. While I won’t delve into the intricacies of gratitude here, I wholeheartedly recommend the books “The Secret” and “The Magic” for those eager to grow and evolve. These texts will offer insights to aid you on your journey.

This wraps up today’s discussion. Penning this blog triggered a wave of memories, yet rest assured, I’m doing well. For the first time, I managed to complete an article without shedding a tear – progress, indeed! And fear not; I haven’t forgotten about the blog post you requested on “Why Do We Feel Lonely?” I’m diligently working on it, aiming to cover a range of factors from my personal experiences. Until then, stay safe and keep your journey of growth alive.

Much love,
– eika ©