ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS I WISH I HAD AS A TEENAGER.

WHY DO WE FEEL HURT WHEN WE’RE NOT APPRECIATED FOR THE EFFORTS WE MAKE?

The initial question revolves around why we feel hurt when our efforts go unappreciated. To shed light on this matter, let me share a bit about my school life. I used to be the girl who would go above and beyond for her friends, often without receiving the recognition I hoped for. This bothered me for quite a while until I realized that my actions were driven by my nature rather than expectations. It’s in my character to assist those in need. My mistake was expecting reciprocation. I anticipated them to love and care for me the same way I did for them.

After this realization, I didn’t drastically change. I didn’t stop helping or showing kindness. Instead, I stopped prioritizing others’ needs over my own happiness. I understood that my happiness was my responsibility and not dependent on anyone else.

As an older sister, my advice to you is that you’re only 16, and life is just beginning. The school years can be the best if you prioritize self-love and happiness. Forge friendships but avoid dependency, as some might not remain by your side in the future. Everyone you meet teaches you something. If someone hurts you, forgive them and move forward. Your journey is yours to shape without sacrificing your well-being.

If you feel unappreciated despite your efforts, you may be directing your energy toward the wrong people. If people don’t uplift you, consider changing your circle. Keep in mind, this blog is just a starting point. To delve deeper, I recommend reading a couple of books during your free time. The knowledge gained will transform you by 2022. Balancing textbooks and self-improvement can be managed by reading just five pages a day.

Remove expectations from people, and you’ll remove their power to hurt you.

WHY DO WE FEEL LONELY?

The second question concerns why we often feel lonely even with people around. This often happens when we don’t enjoy our own company, seeking distraction or constant interactions. Overcome this by spending more time alone. I dedicate an hour daily without distractions and have learned to embrace solitude. Gradually, you’ll find contentment within yourself. Strengthen your connection with yourself through meditation, visualizing your future, and making a bucket list. True happiness lies within, independent of external factors.

Hold your own company sacred so that even when alone, you are complete.

IS HEALING TIME BOUND?

The next question ponders whether it’s acceptable to take time to heal before embarking on new endeavors. In my view, it’s entirely okay to prioritize your healing. Your mental health is more important than grades or family expectations. Put yourself first. Your health comes before anything else. If taking care of yourself disappoints others, so be it. Focus on happiness and building your successful life. Healing isn’t confined by time; it might take a while, but the process is invaluable.

Remember, growth might initially feel like breaking.

The following blog will expand upon this theme. “A Guide/Schedule to a Healthy and Happy Life as a Teenager” will include a timetable I personally follow, which you can try out. My goal remains helping others in situations I once faced. Stay safe, and live a healthy, fulfilling life.

Lots of love,
eika ©